Thank you so those of you who have agreed to be interviewed for my play about kinky people! I would really like it if you have any friends (online or elsewhere) who represent another facet of the BDSM community who would like to contribute their experiences. I love hearing about spankos, the stories I’ve heard about our strength and struggles are incredibly inspiring, but I’d like to open up the floor to a wider variety of people as well. Please send me a message either just saying you are interested, or with your email so I can send you the questions on an easier forum than tumblr. Also if you have any questons about my goals for this project, ask away. Keep being amazing!
Anonymous asked: I posted the last comment, I would love to get your email to chat. i really don't have any females spanko friends to chat with, just allot of friendzoned suitors.
If you send me another message not as anonymous, I can answer privately with my email. I’d rather not give it out for everyone to see though :-). Thanks!
Anonymous asked: I'm a closet spanko and I've been looking for a mentor since I was like 14 or 15 (in secret of course) I'm 18 now but all the spanko websites say I'm 21 because I've been lying in an attempt to connect with my own people (spankos). I've been looking for a platonic spanking mentor all this time and still not found one. Most just view it as sexual or they just live too far away or we haven't clicked. I can't even tell my biggoted family, I feal all alone a freak among freaks.
I feel very much in the same boat as you. Sometimes I just want someone to talk to about it who I know will understand and not judge me, but for it not to be a sexual thing. Like a friend how understands what it’s like. Especially since I feel a lot of the websites online are devoted to porn rather than any kind of real support group like there is for gay people, it can get really isolating, and make you feel like you are a freak. You aren’t a freak. I promise you that. If you ever want to talk, please, let me know and I will give you my email. We as a community need to support each other. I hope this helps, even a little bit. I’m young too—only 20 and in college.
Anonymous asked: I want to respond to your call for submissions, but my Tumblr blog is reserved for my more 'vanilla' interests and I don't want my username to go public. If I agree to be interviewed, will you keep my user information private? (You are welcome to my experiences, but I'm fond of my anonymity.)
Yes, absolutely. I am fond of mine as well… :)
Hey guys!
So here’s the scoop. I’ve been writing a play for a while about a spanko and her struggles to come to terms with it for herself, and at this point I’m just not feeling it anymore. I don’t feel like the story is going anywhere, it’s not making sense, there are so many holes in the character’s stories that I just feel like it’s a bit beyond salvaging.
However, I do have another idea. I want to write a play about the BDSM community and the variety of experiences with realizing their kink(s), coming to terms with it, reactions from friends/family, etc, affect people. If any of you would like to be “interviewed” by email or through tumblr by me, please let me know. I would most likely use your words as quotes. But we will see what it turns into. I just really want to create something that represents more than just us spankos, though I will be including some of course.
Yay, theatre!
Anonymous asked: I think it's just a matter of you finding the right person. I suppose your kink makes that more complicated than it is for some people, but there are people out there. Dan Savage calls those folks GGG: good, giving and game. Also, what you're into sexually doesn't have to define your relationship or anything else. If you haven't looked through Dan Savage's advice archives, you really should. It will open your eyes to a whole range of relationship possibilities. Be well!
Thanks!
Anonymous asked: I think of ageplay is just another aspect of power in a roleplay situation. What turns you on (I think?) is not so much the 'childhood' aspect, but the powerlessness and vulnerability that comes with it. Though my partner and I consider our relationship equal in every respect, it's not uncommon for us to play scenarios with me in a submissive role. Some in the community may enjoy inhabiting those roles full-time, but there are those of us who prefer to keep it confined to the bedroom.
Yeah, definitely. Good to hear :-)
Anonymous asked: It's kinda funny to me to see you worrying about fantasizing about age play on Tumblr, where there are any number of women in daddy/girl relationships (or who at least claim to be in such relationships). It's not something I can relate to from the perspective of either party, but it clearly is well within the spectrum of BDSM relationships. It might make you uncomfortable to accept your fantasies, but you shouldn't worry that you're alone or weird or wrong for having them.
I guess what’s so hard to figure out is the fact that I have these fantasies, but I don’t want a daddy/girl relationship or anything. I want to have a normal relationship, and maybe play around with this stuff in private, I would never want it to actually define our relationship. I have no desire to be in any kind of submissive relationship, I want to be an equal to my partner. It’s just that I want to try the whole roleplay when we are in private. And I feel like a lot of BDSM doesn’t address that—that it’s either your in a full-on daddy/girl relationship or you’re not.
Anonymous asked: Wow. Just found your blog. Amazing, and, your experience is so similar in so many ways. Have to go right now but will send more if you are interested....
Yes, definitely!
lilvoyeurgirl asked: I was reading about your spanking delimma, and wanted to share. I have found it is pretty common to fantasize yourself at quite a young age being spanked or sexually objectified. I've had a number of conversations with a number of people over the years about this very issue. I think it's pretty normal. I also think it's normal to think "oh hey, does this make me bad? sick? a pedophile?" meh, this is one girl's opinion, but I think you are not abnormal in this.
Thanks :-)
